Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Touchy Feely

Some time ago Harold and I were at our friend's house, Wade and Ann. At some point during the evening Wade commented on how girls/women seem to have less physical barriers with eachother than boys/men. I thought about that for a while, and agreed but thought maybe he was being a little overly sensitive, but that I had seen girls being more touchy feely with eachother than men are.

Fast forward to my English class today. I sit down and proceed to diligently study as I am finding out I am deathly afraid of the pop quiz. As I read I hear two girls talking and I look up to see that one is massaging the other, with her left hand, to the side. But she is rubbing the shoulders, carefully shifting the other girls shirt when it slouches down a bit far, rubs some more, again with the shirt shift, more rubbing....all the while they are talking about Relief Society. Hmmm. So, I curiously watch, remembering the conversation with our friends, and try to analyze what is going on here. The one girl obviosly is trying to soothe her friend who is a bit stressed out. In fact, as I sat there I truly wished Harold was there as the longer I watched the backrub the more I felt the tension in my shoulders. This scene continued on for about 8 minutes. I have to admit, despite really needing a back rub myself by the time they were through, I was kind of grossed out by the whole thing, and I am a girl. I wonder what the boys were thinking. I wonder if they were thinking that the girl was cute and they wished they could help her out or if they were wishing their big buddy to the side of them could reach over and soothe the stress a little. Am I alone in this? After today I am with Wade 100%, girls need to stop touching eachother so much. Hugs are fine, the occasional soothing arm pat to say, Hey I know you are stressed, it's going to be okay. Those are fine. But the 8 minute backrubs have to stop!

Did I gross you out? Well, then you feel my pain. I am still trying to get over it myself. And Harold, if you read this I am sorry because I KNOW this will gross you out. But I might need that backrub, I am still super tense as a result of the whole affair.

4 comments:

Abbie said...

OH MY GOSH!! Ok, two weeks ago in stake conference Scott and I look over to see a wife, husband and husband's mother seated in that order two rows in front of us. All of sudden the mother totally starts rubbing her sons back, up and down, back and forth, tickling around the ribs. It was DISGUSTING! I seriously almost had to leave because I couldn't handle it anymore. So yes, I totally agree with you 100%.

mom/Janet said...

I guess I'm not totally grossed out by the girls rubbing each other shoulders and neck. Maybe 8 minutes was a little too much but I'm not against it. Now, two weeks ago in the Saturday session of stake conference we sat behind a young couple that didn't pay attention one bit. The wife rubbed her husband's back the whole time. Side to side, up and down across the neck and the base of the hair line. I wanted to smack her. I truely think next time that happens to me I'm going to lean forward to ask her to stop because it's very distracting. Don't get me wrong, I love back rubs- - just ask Bill but there's a time and place.

McGiven Family.... said...

My dad has been in a lot of bishoprics of singles wards and he always says he cannot stand to sit up on the stand and watch girls rub each others backs and play with each others hair. It drives him crazy. I could not agree more and that totally would have bugged me too!

Brent and Collette said...

I agree with everything that has been said. It just isn't right. Leave the back rubs for somewhere without an audience...